I am finding, right now, that the hardest part of my parenting role is being in control of my children's environment, especially concerning both the friends they choose to keep and even the strangers around us whose behavior is of great concern. We are struggling, at our gym, which we attend every night, to cope with a 10 year-old boy who is nothing short of a menace to everyone around him, especially younger kids. Tonight, his older adolescent brother stormed into the pool area, began screaming and cursing at his mother, then slammed his fist into a poolside storage unit. The entire staff of the gym was on its toes and going after this person, but it was so disturbing to me that my children had to witness such violent behavior, so close to them. After the events of the week in Virginia, any sort of anger management issues can conjure up all manner of trepidation for the what ifs in life, and I just don't want to deal with any of it.